24. August 2010: Christian (half a date)

How did you meet? Offline, at a hotel bar

Name: Christian

Height: 5'11"

Age: 31

Occupation: Story editor/Producer

Good quotes from date:

"I should be asking you some questions, right? OK. Have long have you lived in this neighborhood?....Do you have nice legs?"

Why is he still single? Just got out of a long-term relationship, I think he got his heart broken.

Did he pay for the date? He would have, but I didn't order a drink, but I did make him drop me home in a cab on his way home.

Did he contact you after the date? 

Yes, but it was odd (via email) where he told me all of these great places to see on my vacation and then he said he thought the last time we met was weird and he understands if I never want to see or talk to him again. Huh? (see comments)

How many dates did you go on? One-half

Would you recommend to a friend? Not now


I met this guy about a month ago in a bar. We have been emailing/texting on and off and it really seemed like he wasn't interested. As the murphy's law of dating states, just when I'm about to delete his number from my phone, he texts. "Hello, i'm in your neighborhood, what are you up to?"

It was saturday night at 12:30am. Normally this would annoy me, but the night was taking a turn for the worse anyway so i figured what the hell?

We chatted for about an hour and boy can this boy talk - and talk and talk. He is very passionate about life. I learned that he is fresh out of a relationship (thank god he didn't give me the details, but I think they lived together), which explains his on/off texting. He is not ready to date, but that's ok.

I like talking to him, he's smart and cultured, and funny. So that is that. I have a feeling this isn't the end of the Christian story.

3 weeks later: I was right! That wasn't the end of the story...typical NYC style I saw him on a Monday afternoon standing outside a local lunch spot. We were both with coworkers.

We both did doubletakes and it was awkward. A few hours later I got an email from him saying "Was that you outside ____? You look cute today". I answered yes, and made some email small talk...and so it continues...

23. August 2010: Sam (an activity, non-date)

How did you meet? online

Name: sam

Height: 5'10"

Age: 32

Occupation: Art director/painter

Good quotes from date: "I'm addicted to new experiences."

Why is he still single? Just moved to NYC from Australia

Did he pay for the date? no

Did he contact you after the date? Yes, a casual email one week later, might be 'getting a drink'

How many dates did you go on? 1

Would you recommend to a friend? Not now


My first activity 'date'. I played city tour guide and we biked to a pool, swam, and ate some authentic Venezuelan tacos. He did not pay for my taco. I thought it would have been nice, but then I realized this isn't really a date anyway so I was okay with it. I see us as friends now, he is interesting, a bit quiet, but having a riding partner is always good. Happy to have survived a blind meet up without alcohol and including bathing suits! Refreshing.

16. July 2010: Ken, A Special One

How did you meet? online

Name: Ken

Height: 5'10"

Age: 31

Occupation: PhD candidate in biology

Good quotes from date: *We never had a date, see comments

Did you make out? No

Why is he still single? Because he's not over his ex, see comments

Did he pay for the date? 

Did he contact you after the date?

How many dates did you go on? 0

Would you recommend to a friend? no way


A perfect gentleman or so it would seem. He wanted to call me to chat before we met, who is the 1st guy who has ever wanted to talk on the phone. How endearing.

We chatted, it was natural, he emailed about making a date. We made one. He texted how he was so looking forward to our meeting. He had to cancel because of work we rescheduled for two days later. He picked the time and place. Fast forward three hours prior to the date, I get an email saying:

"i hope this isn't annoying, but i really can't meet you tonight or ever. I had a long draining conversation with my ex last night and I can't stop thinking about it. I'm not ready to date. sorry, good luck!"

Guys keep wishing me good luck, but it isn't coming my way. 

UPDATE: October 2010 

I woke up to a funny email from Ken with the subject line "Random email that you didn't expect to receive and that I don't expect a reply to"...

Honestly at first I thought it was spam because I didn't recognize his name, but I should of known. As my good friend often says "They always come back."

Ken jogged my memory about how were supposed to meet but his 'situation' (and I don't mean Jersey Shore kind of situation) with his ex-girlfriend got in the way and he wasn't ready to date at the time. He wanted to know if I am still single and willing to meet a semi-random stranger because and I quote "What's the worst that can happen?" It would be great to meet me sometime so please let him know.

I looked for his online profile again but I couldn't find it - he must have taken it down. Both curiosity and the potential that this meeting could be great fodder for my loyal blog readers compels me to respond.