How did you meet? offline - friend of a coworker
Good quotes from date(s) "There's no game in dating. Just don't be a wussie."
"I know you have a blog but I don't want to read it. I want to get to know you in person."
Why is he still single? No idea, but he won't be for long
Did he pay for the date? Yes
Did he contact you after the date? Yes
How many dates did you go on? 3
Would you recommend to a friend? He's mine for now
This guy is young but wise (see above quote). Lucas is a friend of my coworker who saw me on her Facebook page and thought I was pretty. She gave him my number and he called. Yes that's right, circa early 2000s he called me on the phone and talked to me like an real-life human.
He wants to get to know me like humans used to do in the pre-social media age - by talking to me face to face on real-life dates.
We aren't Facebook friends, we aren't following each other on Twitter or Instagram. We have had two dates. He picks the places and he refuses to let me pay. He texts me to make sure I get home safely. He is funny, and manly, and a snappy dresser. He holds my hand. He is incredibly straight-foward and asks me out again before our date even ends. He asks me questions and remembers the answers.
Dear lord baby jesus.
I worry that he is only 27 and therefore can't be on the same page of life that I am. But I realize this is only a problem that I've conjured up in my head. Because there is no problem. He is a person who is capable of treating a woman like a woman, and who has already shown me on two dates that he is ready and willing to be emotionally available.
And seriously, what page of life do I think I'm on at almost-35 to think that this 27 year old couldn't possibly understand? Let's break it down.
I make out with 25 year olds in cabs after some drinks (last Friday), and I hook up with a 32 year old man-baby - yep, #79 - (monthly) because when he's drunk he tells me how cute I am, and I have needs like everyone else. Still other times when it's warm out I schedule a beer with 35 year old work crush, who despite what he thinks has absolutely not changed - drugs are still his very best friend.
I have been on so many dates with so many people who are un-ready, unavailable, and man-babies of all ages that I don't even know what I want anymore.
I've been very smug with you, my friends, and myself saying I'm available and ready, but when someone comes along that behaves in all the ways I need I freak the fuck out.
So there you have it. I'm freaking out. But I'm still going on a third date with Lucas.