57. November 2011: Evan, A Meta-Date

view from the williamsburg bridge

If a girl blogger who's going on 100 dates and a boy blogger who's also going on 100 dates go out on a date together is it really a date? It's more like a Meta-Date. A crazy and weird, fun date wrapped in bacon.
I found Evan, the man behind 100 Dates, while Googling "100 Dates Blog". To my surprise, he's basically the male equivalent of me living in this very city. Well, sort of - he's dating for different reasons and his dating model is different. You can read all about it all here.
We emailed and decided to go on a date and blow both of our minds. Then blog about it.

How did you meet? Google brought us together

Name: Evan (his real name!)

Height: 5'11"

Age: 26

Occupation: financial/computer/blogger/funny guy

Good quotes from date:

Him: "You like to stir things up." (As I grabbed his arm and asked him to shuffle through the crunchy leaves along the park)

Me: "I get bored a lot, especially at work."

Him: "I never get bored."

Me: "You're fascinating. I'd like to study you."

Why is he still single?
Because he wants to be, and he needs to stay that way to finish his 100 dates project in one year

Did he pay for the date? He bought me a lemonade on our walk and we split dinner (He offered to pay for dinner, I said no.)

Did he contact you after the date? Yes we texted that we both had fun and that we'd see each around...

How many dates did you go on? 1

Would you recommend to a friend? Yes, if she wants a fun date but not a boyfriend now


Evan and I have a lot in common and yet are different in many ways. He likes long first dates and I like short ones (ours was 4.5 hours, my longest ever). I'm more traditional when it comes to gender roles in dating, he's less so. He is a serial girlfriend guy; I'm a serial single girl. But none of that matters.

He sent me a list of a few of his100 dates that he needs to complete. I chose the "walking date" because I love those. We walked over the Williamsburg bridge, talked, and walked some more. We drank lemonades. We ate arepas and drank wine for dinner. 
I learned that Evan is intense, smart and funny and always sees the good in people. I learned that I might not be as open as I think I am about dating. I learned that Evan is dating to stay single, to meet new people, to try new things, to NOT fall in love. This reminded me that I would like to fall in love again.

I also learned that Evan doesn't have bad dates, he has great ones and OK ones, and I admire him for that. I learned that we really WILL see each other around town, because...wait for it...yes we know many of the same people from improv. We study at the same theater and it's a close knit community. (Insert small world joke here)

How do you end a date between two dating bloggers? Talk about how we end our other dates, of course. I quizzed him on how he ends dates. I told him how I always become awkward, chatty, and shift side to side wondering if I should run away or wait for physical contact - no doubt he could see this.

As we chatted about how we end dates with other people while trying to end ours, he put his hands in my coat pockets where my hands were, pulled me in and sweetly, quickly kissed me - to shut me up no doubt. It worked.

**You can learn more about Evan the man and his 100 Dates project in an interview coming soon to this blog.